WHAT IS BEAUTY ANYWAY?

It doesn't matter how pretty or ugly you are on the outside-your inner beauty will make or break you. The most gorgeous nymph-like person can be the most hideous thing if they are shallow, cruel, pessimistic or insensitive. They would only be as good as a flame to a moth-attract them...then burn them). On the opposite end, someone who is disturbingly ugly who has depth, compassion, optimism or sensitivity can leave you marveling at a living oxymoron.

We all fit in there somewhere with good and bad traits on the outside and inside. But there is one thing we can change (without chemicals or plastic surgery) that will make the difference in whether we are beautiful or not. Throw away what the world says you are and just be you. Go back to when you were a small child, before people called you names or coo-ed at your adorable face. Remember that feeling? If you can't, look at nature. One of my favorite examples is the dog because their nature is similar to ours. They have personalities ranging from aggressive to passive, but naturally they have open eyes for learning, playing, living, being-without any known (as far as we know) knowledge of what is pretty and what is not. If you care to look farther, it is very much the same throughout nature. Be who you are naturally.

I recommend you read Don't Be That Girl, by Travis L. Stork and Leah Furman. I know it is a female related book, but think males should read it too. It points out a lot of things we do that make us less beautiful to ourselves and to others. The book helped me notice and get rid of the parts of me that were behaviors learned to cope with and fit into a negative environment. There is a section within it on friendship and how to be a good partner as well. In taking that advice I was able to become a better friend, person, and companion. (If anyone knows any good books that may be more suited for males, send me a recommendation!).